That’s a good question, entirely dependant on context nonetheless.
In my scenario I should the choice, what happened to me happened to me.
I was with my parents over the weekend gone, and although I love them to bits I do disagree with some things that they say.
We were talking about the recent found trauma to myself, whereby my dad said “Just talk to her”. Let me just put that back in your face.
You are a child, a someone is wanting to feel you, and then resultantly wanting to have sex with you despite you being 10 years old and no understanding. That is fucking wrong…
You had no voice, you had no control. And this trauma, keeping secret has fucking damaged you and shaped your life to date. That is 10 years of life that are mishapened and has brought upon unrealistic expectations and incredibly hard feelings.
If what happened to me was your daughter, you would get her to the police right now to have the bastard sent down, now why the fuck is this different?
Oh I know why, she’s female – I know deep down you don’t fully believe me just by looking into your eyes, and your ashamed of me. The way you have spoke about the issue and she’s your first-born.
You said “I wish you didn’t tell her” (to my mum) oh so thanks, you want me to keep this inside me? Well thanks, love you too. Equally, I do understand but how does that help me? I need you, I fucking need you.
Let me just say that I do understand, I understand more than you think but this shit hurts.
It hurts that you and mum have made this about you both and I don’t have your support. Equally I know it is extremely hard for you both but right now, I just need you. I feel alone and I’m struggling.
This is my story, and no matter what I’m doing this alone.
My choices are my own, and she is in my past. I never want to talk to her again and that’s my choice, I’m taking ownership of that.
It’s hard through, you always try and do what you are told to do so by your parents and when you don’t it feels awful.